I saw this article on Pinterest and thought this would inspire a new blog. I thought it would, but there is something else in my heart.

How are you? I hope well. I’m here. We live, we laugh, we struggle and we grow. I’m in the middle. Just know whatever your struggle is, it’s temporary. Unless you don’t work on changing it or let go and move on. And trust, I know what it feels like to try things and they not only don’t go the way you’ve planned, it’s a disaster or detrimental to you and your health. Argh.

What I’ve learned, as many blessings as I have, let that be your focus. Gratitude. I know it’s hard. You know how we are sometimes, we focus on the negative. And if you look, there are tons of things in your life and the world, that can make you upset, draining your health and/or money. You’ll find everything in your life to gripe and complain about. But you can’t stay there. Don’t dwell. Don’t focus on it for too long. For me I gripe and get angry, sometimes cry. Then it’s time to refocus. It has happen several times in the course of a week. I constantly have to remind myself that life is where my focus is. If I focus on all the s@#$ then that’s where my life will stay. This is a great time to focus on what you like. The things that make you happy. Then you can move on from there. No, it’s not easy. You will have to force yourself to move on at times.

In a recent situation, I stayed there for months on. Basically, it was in my face. I saw the problems every day and couldn’t fix it. I complained to my mother-in-law every time I saw her. Mostly because she knew about the issue. I complained to my mom. This was so the wrong road. I was miserable because of what someone did and couldn’t change it immediately. I was frustrated. It would cost me money I didn’t have to fix it. Thank you dad for helping me. But even after that, it was a stone in my shoe and no matter how I tried, it hurt that someone would do that, I couldn’t let it go. It took me about 2 and a half months. And that was only me sinking into anger and depression whenever I saw the problem. Once it was fixed, I felt better. I didn’t have to see it every day. But if I’m down, it becomes one of the things I focus on. And you go into, ‘how dare they after what I did for them.’

It’s easier when you don’t have to look at it and deal with it every morning, afternoon and evening. If you ask me about it, I briefly explain and move on. I can’t stay there. Of course that wasn’t all. This year has been about growth and struggle. Sometimes, growth is a struggle. You think to yourself, why does it have to be so hard? Why can’t it go well for a change? What am I doing wrong. Oh, been there the last few years. It felt like no matter what I tried it didn’t work. Man, was I in the s@#% every time. To be honest, it’s what you do when the problem happens. How do you react? Does it send you into a tail spin? If we were in a seminar right now and they said everyone raise you hand if you’ve been there, my hand would go up every time. It’s not just you or about you. Remember Murphy’s law, anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. Or ask I like to say ‘s@#$ happens.’ Still, sometimes it’s just not for you or your time. Our best bet is to prepare for the opportunity.

If you can catch yourself when the panic starts, it will stop you from going down the rabbit hole of despair. You know, the one that takes you days to climb out of. Stop digging. Take a moment and breathe. You’ve got a problem and making sure your frustration, anger and sadness keep you buried and stuck won’t solve it. Sometime a good cry will help. Let it all out.

Now once you’re clear headed enough to think rationally, think solutions. How can I best solve this problem? What do you need to do? Your heart will still be sore. Thinking about it will still upset you. Once it’s solved there will be a sense of satisfaction once it’s over and you think, I created the solution. I did it. Or, thank the Lord (Allah, Jehovah, Buddha, you sub your belief…) that so and so was able to help me….

My latest problem isn’t easy to fix. But we gotta move on to live.

Thank you for stopping by. Check back soon. For December we’ll talk about goal for 2025. Start thinking of yours. Creating a new habit will help you reach those goals. I check in daily on my IG to show you how my habits are coming and give tips.

Peace and Love